The Silent Wins That Matter
Not every achievement makes it to social media, but that doesn’t mean it’s any less important.
What if your biggest achievement this month isn’t something you can post about? What if it’s just between you and God?
I just came home from my last walk/run for the month. Or so I thought.
The goal?
Walk or run 30 km.
Earlier this week, I was battling an allergic reaction - hoarse voice, dry coughs, aches, pain, you name it - that slowed my progress, but despite the setback, I got it done.
As I reflect, I think about all the times I have set goals—some I have achieved, some I am close to hitting, and others that remain unmet.
Sometimes, I feel elated. Other times, I wonder if I could have done more.
But this walking goal was simply about completing and being okay with it.
As I walked, I realised that this year hasn’t gone as planned, but maybe that’s okay. Maybe progress looks different than I expected.
You know those times when life is just "lifing"? This has been one of those times.
If I had to shout my top achievement this year from the rooftops, I would probably say it’s being consistent with my walking. I’ve hit some pretty decent personal milestones, without the pressure of walking to lose weight, but to ‘feel good’ and breaking personal records that no one knows but me.
Walking has been my therapeutic escape—some days, it pushes me out of bed; other days, it is the one thing that gets me moving.
But you know what? That isn’t my greatest achievement. Sure, I’ve shattered personal records and milestones, and I can scroll through my phone to relive the joy of hitting my fastest time or longest distance.
But honestly, my most meaningful victories?
They could never be captured on camera.
Isn’t that one of the best feelings … breaking personal records and achieving goals no one knows about? It sure is for me.
And while social media will be flooded with posts about quarter-one achievements, monthly highlights, and wins by now and next week, when that happens, we must look back at our journeys—scroll through our galleries, replay our memories, and recognise the good, even when things did not go as planned.
Even when comparison may creep up and say, “You have not, or you could have”, all the negatives will play tricks in your mind … you and I will have to shut them down.
Earlier this year, I committed to the 12-week year framework once again.
This time, I semi-achieved it.
Initially, I felt like I had only hit one goal, which did not seem enough.
But then I realised that one of my most important goals was strengthening my relationship with God, which I did intentionally focus on.
My second goal was serving and stewarding my gifts, and I have been doing that.
My third goal was business-related, and while I did not achieve what I had anticipated, I made some progress.
Can you imagine I was ready to dismiss the other goals because I didn’t hit one goal I truly wanted to achieve?
Why do we let one unmet goal overshadow all our progress?
The goals I achieved could not be captured on camera - those are just between me and God and require some processing and sitting with.
Have you ever found yourself dismissing an achievement because you cannot share it with the world how you would want to?
Yet, I find myself guilty of that as I reflect on the personal goals I have hit that are just so personal.
I will be honest, though: some days were tough; some days, I pushed through; on others, I learned to lean on those with more experience and knowledge to help me figure things out.
I formed new communities and have been exploring ‘finding my people’ because finding and knowing my people and having a community is a big thing for me, especially this season. As I evolve, I learn more about the importance of knowing who I am surrounded with and who I can lean on.
Though I did not accomplish everything I had set out to do, I learned valuable lessons about working towards goals.
Today, March 30, marks the final day of my 12-week year.
I haven’t fully reflected on it yet, but I will share some of the lessons learned because if I did not, who would I be? Lol.
Recently, I listened to a conversation with Myron Golden on School of Hard Knocks, where he said he doesn’t set goals. That made me pause and ask myself, Could I do that and be okay with it? Probably not.
I understand his perspective, and if you’re curious, I encourage you to listen to what he said. He mentioned that setting goals can sometimes feel like setting yourself up for disappointment. Trust me; I know that feeling too well.
But I also know that setting goals has pushed me beyond my limits and challenged me to bet on myself.
I’ll sit with this thought a little longer, but for now, setting goals keeps me moving forward, reminding me of my why—even on the most challenging days.
So, what about you?
What keeps you going on hard days?
Let’s talk about it.
As we move into a new month, let’s not just celebrate what the world can see. Let’s honour the quiet wins, the unseen victories, and the growth happening beneath the surface. Because those matter, too.
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I saw the caption and immediately I could relate, because you know we are "Acieve these goals and knock them dead people". Right now while I am trying to keep moving forward, I am also honoring the space I am in. Knowing, trusting and believing that....every step of my journey matters, even the moment when things seems very bleak & dismal.